Couples Therapy in Queens:
Building and Nourishing Secure Relationships
Come back to a place of feeling seen, heard, and valued
Couples Therapy in Queens
You can build a strong, fulfilling relationship with couples therapy in Queens, NY.
You want to improve things, to stop the fighting, miscommunication, distance, and lack of intimacy, but it can oftentimes seem like you are getting stuck in a spiral and are not able to break out of it.
Breaking the Negative Dynamics
Couples therapy is a time to stop the negative patterns and fights that you often find yourself in, develop a deeper understanding of yourself and your partner, and build new positive ways of connecting in your relationship.
Couples therapy in Queens will help you learn new ways to communicate and connect with each other that will last long after you complete therapy.
Imagine what change looks like.
Imagine being able to have these conversations, which have ended with frustration, instead lead you to a place of connection and resolution.
Imagine coming to greet your partner without any trepidation, because you know that you will both work through any bumps in a way and continue to maintain a strong bond.
Imagine that instead of being stuck in negative patterns, you naturally fall into positive cycles where both of you continuously feel more connected, calm, and joy.
Couples therapy in Queens can help you learn to
Communicate more effectively
Feel more seen, heard, and understood (and do the same for your spouse!)
Handle conflict in a way which leads to beneficial solutions (and not more distance and resentment)
Improve your sexual relationship
Build greater intimacy
Heal past wounds from your relationship
One simple, free consult can help you discover what couples therapy can do for YOUR relationship.
Couples who work with me often share that they experience deeper, more secure connection, greater clarity, and improved communication and intimacy, not just in their intimate relationship, but in other relationships in their life.
Our couples therapy sessions will give you tools to heal past hurts, reconnect authentically, and rediscover the relationship you both deserve. My hope is that you will experience shifts within the sessions themselves, and reap the results long after marriage therapy ends.
Our work will focus on understanding the patterns that keep you stuck, reaching for each other in new ways, and building a more secure emotional bond.
My other specialties include discernment counseling and individual counseling for relationships.
You might be wondering, but will this work for us? That’s why I offer a free consult, to really explore how therapy with me can be the difference between you staying in these cycles of disconnection and frustration or you finding your way back to each other, without losing yourselves. Click below to see how 1 short call, can start you on the path of changing everything.
Couples therapy in Queens with me looks like:
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Tailored to You and Your Relationship
I bring my training and experience. You bring your history, your preferences, and your understanding of your relationship. This work is collaborative and personalized. I check in regularly to make sure you feel comfortable, supported, and aware of the progress you are making. This is your therapy, and it is shaped around what you need, not a one size fits all approach.
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Change You Can Feel in the Room
I want you to experience real shifts in your relationship during the session itself. When change happens here, it becomes much easier to recognize and recreate it outside of therapy. I use experiential exercises that help you communicate differently, reconnect emotionally, and begin repairing hurts while we are together, not just talking about them.
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Slowing Things Down So They Actually Change
When something important comes up, I do not gloss over it or rush ahead. I help you slow down the moments where you tend to get stuck so we can really see what is happening and work with it more precisely. Taking the time to understand these moments deeply is what allows real resolution to happen, instead of repeating the same conversations over and over.
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A Judgment Free Space for Both of You
You are both coming to couples therapy because you want something to change, not because either of you is trying to hurt or sabotage the relationship. You may both have played a role in the current dynamic, but those reactions developed for real reasons.
I focus on understanding where each of you is coming from and what makes sense given your history, stressors, and emotional needs. I don’t view people as lazy, resistant, or intentionally difficult. Instead, I help you and your partner gain clarity about your intentions and learn new ways of responding that feel more aligned with who you want to be in your relationship.
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Focused on Real Progress and Lasting Change
My goal in our work together is to help you graduate! Couples counseling is for you to gain clarity, build new skills, and feel confident carrying those changes into your daily life.
I keep your goals at the center of our work and adjust sessions as needed so we stay aligned with where you want to go. I check in regularly about how things are feeling and what is shifting, and I welcome your feedback. Therapy works best when we are all clear about what progress looks like and are moving toward it together.
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An Active, Engaged Therapist
From the moment we meet, I want you to feel supported and understood. I show up calm, curious, and fully engaged. I do not sit back silently. I help you understand your dynamic, name what I see happening between you, and guide you to slow down enough to really hear each other. My role is to stay present with you and help move the work forward in a steady, thoughtful way.
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
I primarily use EFT when working with couples because of how impactful and healing the work can be.
EFT has been proven effective through decades of research and practical application, and the benefits usually last long after graduating therapy. Research outcomes according to a meta analysis show that 90% of couples who participate in EFT report improvements in their relationship, and 70-75% move from distress to recovery.
To learn more about EFT, click here for an excerpt from a book by the founder of the model, Sue Johnson:
Click here to schedule your free 15-minute consultation for marriage counseling in Queens.
FAQs about Couples Therapy in Queens
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Absolutely. Many couples have seemingly opposing preferences when it comes to working through challenges. I specifically tailor the therapy to meet each partner where they are at. I don’t believe (and it is utterly unhelpful) in forcing someone to view things through a lens that they don’t see it in.
One of my priorities is making sure that both of you feel comfortable with the sessions. Throughout the work, I regularly check in to see how you are finding the therapy process to be. This helps make sure that all of us are on the same page and allows us to shift gears if we need to.
The goal is for both of you to get to a place that you want, AND to feel good about the process of getting there :).
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Couples therapy has years of research (and my own anecdotal experience shows the same) showing how effective it is for the vast majority of couples who come.
With that said, there are certain cases where individual therapy may be necessary either before or instead of couples therapy. I like to think of them as the 4 As- Active Abuse, Active Affair (an affair that happened in the past is definitely something that is treatable in couples therapy), Untreated Addiction, and different Agendas (one person wants to stay married and the other wants a divorce). In those cases, individual therapy or discernment counseling may be a better fit.
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Couples therapy is a safe place where you can feel comfortable sharing anything that is coming up for you! In fact, the more that you are able to share, the more we can work with. I recommend sharing as much as you feel comfortable.
However, there is a distinction. You can and should say whatever is coming up for you, but you shouldn’t say it in a shaming or accusatory way. Doing so can be counterproductive and lead to less safety in the room and more disconnection.
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Couples therapy can be immensely helpful for many couples.
Some signs that therapy may be helpful now (this is a non-exhaustive list) include having the same arguments regularly, feeling stuck on one particular issue and that none of your regular strategies are able to resolve it, feeling like you need to tip-toe around each other, feeling disconnected more than you feel connected, struggles with trust or resentment, having experienced some sort of betrayal, or experiencing struggles in a transition.
Couples who come in earlier, before it impacts so much of their relationship, actually find that therapy moves more quickly and smoothly.
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It takes some couples longer and some shorter to progress through couples therapy, depending on many factors including how locked they feel in patterns of arguments, if there is trauma, and if there has been any sort of betrayal. Weekly, ongoing therapy can help look at all the areas of your relationship and work through them on a deeper level.
With that said, I offer a short term structured version of couples counseling (around 8 weeks) which many couples feel allows them to experience a lot of growth in their relationship. If this is something that you’re interested in, please reach out!
If you’re ready to strengthen your relationship and move past your struggles reach out today.
As a couples therapist in Queens, NY, I offer couples therapy designed to help you feel heard, supported, and connected again.